Remarriage in Cramlington
We are pleased that you have approached us with a view to getting married in church. We welcome enquiries from couples where either or both parties have previously been married. The purpose of this page is to explain the Church’s policy.
As Christians we believe that marriage is a lifelong commitment of one man to one woman. However, we realize that life is not that simple, and sadly some marriages do not last. The Church accepts that, in exceptional circumstances, a divorced person may marry again in church during the lifetime of a former spouse.
If you are thinking about asking to be married in church it will be necessary to have an in- depth discussion with one of the clergy before choosing a date for your wedding. He/she will want to talk to you frankly about the past, your hopes for the future and your understanding of marriage. You and your intended spouse should therefore be prepared to consider some questions. You may find it helpful to reflect beforehand on the issues they raise and should be prepared to answer them with honesty.
What does marriage mean to you?
What have you learned from your previous marriage?
Has there been healing of past hurts?
If you have children, how are they being looked after?
What do others think for your marriage plans?
When did your new relationship begin?
Have either of your been divorced more than once?
Are you wanting to grow in Christian faith?
You will also need to bring with you the decree absolute of any divorce. (A decree nisi will not be sufficient.)
Please note that in some circumstances you may be asked to attend more than one confidential interview. Exceptionally, it may be necessary to consult with the Bishop or his adviser before making a decision, although the final decision remains with the parish priest. This process may take a little time and you will be advised how long this might take at your initial meeting.
If it is not possible for your proposed marriage to take place in church, we will be happy to discuss other alternatives that are open. Some couples choose a blessing service in church after a registry office wedding as another alternative. If a marriage service in church is agreed you may be invited to take part in marriage preparation, possibly with other couples.
Please contact the churchwardens who will put you in touch with a member of the clergy to discuss your wedding plans further.